Update
This entry was posted on 7/19/2008 5:50 PM and is filed under uncategorized.
Lots of people know we are adopting. I'm an open book and enjoy letting people know about the process of adopting. My hope would be that others would find it in their hearts to adopt a child also. The problem is that now anyone who knows me also knows that adopting is not an easy process. Not easy at all. It feels unfair at times but then a tragedy occurs and you remember why we jump through hoops and complete countless stacks of paperwork to prove we will be good parents. A little boy died this month who was recently adopted. A beautiful child who was brought to America for a better life only lived here for a few months. His adoptive father drove to work, instead of daycare, leaving the child in his car. The mistake was realized too late to save the little boy. I first read about the boy on Monday morning and not a day has passed that I haven't thought about him and his parents.
I wonder how this could happen. I think about Bailey so many times throughout my work day. I worry about the chance of thunderstorms...she's terrified of them. I wonder what she's doing, if she spent the whole day sleeping, or if she's watching out the window waiting for my return. We take Bailey in the car all the time. She goes to the park, PetSmart, the beach, and any restaurant that allows her to sit with us on their patio. Today after a visit to the dogpark we stopped by the grocery store. I stayed in the car with Bailey while Jay went in. He was only going in to pick up a few things and didn't take long. Even in a parking garage with all of the windows down I was hot and I knew Bailey was too. All I could think of was the little boy who died in a car in the summer heat of July. Jay, on the other hand, can completely understand. He can't multi-task the way I can and for this very reason when he is responsible for transporting our child I will be calling to make sure the child arrived to his destination safely.
There is another reason why this story is haunting me. When Jay and I decided to switch from Ukraine to Russia I did lots of research on agencies. The one we chose has a great reputation but happens to be the same agency that placed this boy with his family. Now there are rumors on the internet stating that the agency will be banned from Russia. Who knows what will happen but for now we are continuing to move forward. We received our appointments to have our fingerprints done for our updated I-171H today. All of our paperwork was reviewed by the agency and after a few minor corrections and even more help from our amazing social worker we should be ready for the dossier to go to Russia very soon. My hope is that Russian officials will see that our agency does all they can to make sure their families are well prepared to provide loving, supportive homes to children who need them. A tragic accident shouldn't prevent other children from coming home to their forever families.
I'll post an update as soon as we know more.
****After reading a comment someone left for me I would like to state once again that this was a TRAGIC ACCIDENT. The father (to my knowledge) is still hospitalized and my prayers are with him and his wife.
